Discussion do i have a problem? (1 Viewer)

[etniesczar]

i feel like my sneaker fetish is getting out of control. i am sooo sexually attracted to sneakers that i have thoughts of having sex with them even without a girl present. when i find links with sneakers i scroll to find the best shot of the sneakers to masturbate to. when i see a girl in a pair of sneakers it is a definate plus if she is sexy but sometimes, if the shoe is right, it doesnt matter what she looks like and i cant help the thought of her standing on my hard cock or just getting on my knees to lick and rub my penis on her shoes. im really embarrased of my fetish, but on the other hand its like i wish everyone would know.

i feel like my sexual attraction is for a pair of shoes instead of women and i dream of being intimate with sneakers. is it possible that i am bi-sexual, meaning for girls and sneakers?

this may seem dumb but i think i just need some other opinions.

 

[netking30]

Re: do i have a problem?

I am surprised that no one has answered. I feel just the same way except I have got over any guilt feelings. I remember feeling a bit 'hard' when I saw girls wear certain types of plimsolls when my age was a single digit, and a bit later when seeing adults wearing ripple sole shoes which were in vogue then, especially when they squeaked and squelched on smooth floors. Some girls at high school wore shoes with sawtooth ripple soles (bit like Adidas Country Ripple) and they were a turn-on. I had difficulty relating to girls then, partly because of shyness and partly because of prevailing parental attitudes at the time. In my late teens I purchased a pair of canvas tennies with gummy herringbone soles and putting them on was a turn on for me. One day while thinking of them I rubbed my penis with the rough herrinbone sole until I exploded. It was a bit sore at first until the pleasure overcame the soreness and the juice started to flow. I have been 'hooked' ever since. My partner of many years is very understanding and she will give me sneaker jobs now and again.

So just enjoy your fetish. The only concern would be to make a real effort to love a girlfriend that comes your way so she does not think you merely love her sneakers.

 

[Seeker]

Re: do i have a problem?

Sorry I missed this post as well. Netking30 has passed on some good comments and advice. Like most things in life if you let it be a problem it will be otherwise enjoy your fetish.

 

[netking30]

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There was an 'Ask Annabelle' item on this in August 1998 about a girl who got worried about her boyfriend. I have put the link in 'links' section but unfortunately you still have to find it on the site.

In essence Annabelle suggested that she dump her boyfriend which was rather unfortunate.

A while back I drafted an answer I think Annabelle should have given. Here it is:

If Lauren was completely put off by this fetish, she would probably have terminated the relationship and that would have been the end of the matter. She seems to find attractive features of this relationship, is uneasy about the fetish and seeks information and advice. The boyfriend is quite open about his fetish, and this honesty has effectively removed some stress from the relationship – he has nothing to hide and Lauren will not be unpleasantly surprised later.

Lauren asks if he is normal. He is not abnormal (excuse the double negative) in that a portion of the population has fetishes and are still able to continue normal relationships. In this modern age it is difficult to say that his behavior is 'perverted'. He is not harming anyone (unless his pre-occupation with his fetish harms workplace and other relationships). The need for therapy seems rather doubtful, especially as it would take a long time and seems uncertain of success. Liberal views on love and marriage relationships embrace the role of fetishes and other 'kinky' practices, and while not too common (I would not be so sure of this!), the boyfriend's desires are not really out of place in this context.

Lauren probably does not realize it yet, but his fetish could facilitate a good ongoing relationship. Lauren can fulfill his sexual desires with relatively little effort on her part, and if he tires, a new pair of sneakers will help revitalize the relationship. Hence there may be less risk of unfaithfulness. Lauren would in general be in control of the situation and the boyfriend would be slightly subservient – a role he is not likely to object to.

This begs the question of whether he loves Lauren's sneakers more than Lauren. At this stage probably yes. The boyfriend needs to recognize this and make a special effort to enrich the relationship so his love of Lauren's sneakers is an adjunct to the relationship, and not the relationship itself.

Lauren can use her own judgment as to whether she feels comfortable with her boyfriend's desires and whether to tolerate it or to actively help him fulfill his desires.

 

[felna]

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most of what's been said is pretty good advice, but I'd just add that yes the fetish can consume you if your not honest about it. I too have had an attraction to plimsoles since I was in single figures - at a british school where plimsoles are part of the school uniform it made for some uncomfortable games lessons!

I grew up as a traditional Catholic and was taught that sex, and particularly deviations were something that came form the devil and too be suppressed at all costs. Although I left the catholic church when I was about 14, it's not easy to shake it off, and I still saw my own fetishes (light bondage had been added by this stage) as something wrong so I continued to try to deny them. I had a couple of unsuccessful relationships before I met my wife. As per usual I tried to ignore my desires, and it wasn't until after we got married that I realised that I would have to be honest with her, initially she seemed to take it well, but as it went on I could see she was uncomfortable and it made our sex life very strained until it all but dried up. Eventually we split up - over other things (she had an affair) but I can't help but feel that part of the problem was the simple fact that my fetishes weren't things she enjoyed.
Since then I've been through a change in that I've finally accepted my festishes for what they are - I've had two partners in that time, the first discovered she enjoyed bondage - even more than I, but it was her first time and I think she was a bit scared by what I'd awakened in her and we split after 6 months or so. My current partner has totally accepted my fetishes, and together we've had a lot of fun over the last 3 years exploring it together.

By finally accepting what you are and being honest with both yourself and any partners you have you should be fine.
On your own is fine - there's nothing wrong with liking plimsoles as a sexual object, just because they aren't a traditional 'sex' clothing like bra or knickers doesn't make them any less valid, but you should be honest with anyone you meet - sometimes it will drive you apart, but when it pulls you together it's the best thing in the world.

 

[uncleinterchange]

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It's not dumb at all! I had a really tough time learning to accept my own sneaker fetish too. I knew that Chucks turned me on all the way back in elementary school but it wasn't until I was 25 that I really felt comfortable sharing my fetish with a girlfriend and asking her to join me in indulging it. I was honest about it, and it turns out she finds it very cute and endearing. Keep playing with your sneakers, tell your partners about your fetish (it will be a hard conversation for you the first time, and it may end up being such a non-issue that your partner doesn't even know why you're freaked out about sharing) and relax! Be grateful you have an easy fetish like sneakers, and not a difficult one.

 

[netking30]

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The last two posters have raised an important point. A long time back my girlfriend (now my partner) went away for a few weeks and when I met her at the bus station, she was wearing brand new suede shoes with wedge crepe rubber soles (see pic). Those shoes were popular with adults and kids, both sexes and seeing them turned me on. And now my girlfriend had a pair! I just could not conceal my attraction for those shoes and she knew I loved seeing her wear them. A bit later when we were sitting together she poked me in the crotch with the toe of those shoes, but felt too embarrassed to try it again. At least we now knew where we stood. If it were not for that, I think our relationship would have been potentially unstable. A few years later I was sitting on the floor between her legs and she could not resist digging the heels of her sneakers into my crotch, much to my delight.