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Adult rated Keds Willing / unwilling - wives / girlfriends

Seeker

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One topic over the years I've had a lot of email about is the unwillingness of wives / girlfriend's to wear sneakers for the fetishee. Personally I'm lucky but there are times when nothing could get Treat into a pair of sneaks. I think its important to know both sides of the coin I've always tired to make our love life a bit separate from the fetish. I always thought that it could really hurt a relationship if the spouse thought that the fetish was more important than her. That said I think the spouse should also know that it's part of what makes us tick and thus a needed component.

I'll stop babbling now, what I really wanted to do is open the topic of conversation. I'd like to hear from some of you that is is effecting positively or negatively.
 
Can freak some people

Can freak some people

Well if u want to know the truth, I find that some women find it ok others think that your nuts if u like a certain footwear item. Some of my friends like to wear keds or sneakers that look like keds, but I think that they prefer if they decide when to wear them. I have friends that I have actually bought a pair of sneakers for and had them look at me as if I was nuts, others think its cute and will occasionlly wear them. I have a female friend who likes wearing canvas sneakers but she flakes out when she knows that I am looking at her feet. Of course I like to see my friends wear them (all female), but I do not make a big deal if they don't. The other thing is whether you get a stiffy from the girl in the sneaker or the sneaker. Some people can not get aroused unless the person is wearing a particular item or if that particular item is there in front of them like on the head board of a bed. Which is really sad if u ask me. Some friends that I talk to also do not find their feet attractive, and to talk about foot wear or stare at their feet will actually make them upset. the Thing is u really can not force a person to wear a certain item, no matter how much u like to see them in it its their choice.

Although nagging sometimes helps

Sincerely

Killerkeds
 
girlfriends

girlfriends

You both have brought up important points, but I think Seeker has hit the nail on the head, you have to put HER ahead of our fetish. For the most part my past girl friends found it important to know what turned me on. When they found out they thought it was different but not weird. I am not into the sniffing thing so maybe thats something else.

So when they found out they thought it was alot easier than wearing stilletto's, and were abiliging to wear them. Some thought it was great that they could wear comfortable shoes and turn me on. But then you have to be honest and up front and not hide your fetish either. For some reason if you do they think that you are cheating on them or they CAN'T turn you on.

Well thats my babble.
 
Fair comments from all, but Women are fickle things at the best of times! I to have asked girlfriends to wear keds some will some won't. I have found that demanding rarely gets you want you want but asking nicely nearly always does. Some have thought it a bit wierd as their ex boyfriends were normaly into the high heels and stockings thing, which is much more common place. The keds fetish is a rare one I think and as it's different from the "norm" women tend to shy away from it, possibly because they are embaressed more by the request than the actuall act it's self. But as James said, there are plenty more women around who are up for it, just a case of finding an open minded one!!.

P.S.

Sorry for the bad spelling, but having a blonde day today!!
 
a bit harsh...

a bit harsh...

Seeker,

Was that a reply to my posting? If so a bit harsh mate...
 
being harsh

being harsh

I still have to side with Seeker, no wonder a lot of women think of men as small boys. Throwing a tantrum every time you don't get your way..... Thats mature.

In a successful relationship you have to give a lil to get a lot. I think Seekers and my point is dont let think sneaker fetish be the only sexual connection between you. Do something she wants to do then it can be your turn next time. And hey what she wants maybe something new that you end up liking too.. Its time to broaden your horizons!

And lets not forget this is a forum where all opions are welcome to debate. This has to be the most interest any members of this site have been since this forum started. Good question Seeker!
 
step up to the plate!!

step up to the plate!!

Dean,

Are you in a full time relationship? Also, in my experence kindness, tenderness and being an all round top guy!! nearly always gets you what you want, maybe you should try it? but hey don't fix it if it ain't BROKE!! and if it works for you no problems!
 
Keds an issue to be solved??

Keds an issue to be solved??

Well guys I agree with Garythesaint, and he brought up my point from my first reply. U can not force a woman to wear something she does not want to. It has to be up to them. I do agree with Dean about finding someone that is willing to hold your interest, but not in a demanding way. The other thing is that Women are completely insane. Think about it, one minute they are turning u on, next thihg they give u the look making u think that the polar regions might be a warmer place to live than the room that u are in. The only advice I can give to you seeker is rent a good love story (no Keds) and ask the wife to watch it. And tell her u r sorry for putting your fetish ahead of her. That does not work ask her if she would like to take up balllroom dancing. She might actually start to wear the keds then.
 
KK you lost me 😕

I've been married for over 20 years and all in all I've never been left wanting. In every relationaship there are ups and downs but what has worked for me long term is 50 / 50 partnership. I do for her she does for me we don't always agree nor do we always get along 100% but that's life you get past it.

We did actually try Salsa dancing this year and Treaty wore Keds to the classes by choice. Over the years Treaty has been a trooper, shit she puts up with me, the site, and you guys, what more can I say.
 
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